Resistance. You Can Beat It!
(Read in :03)“Our job in this life is not to shape ourselves into some ideal we imagine we ought to be, but to find out who we already are and become it.”~ Steven Pressfield
It’s been months since I first wrote about “The Resistance” and used this photo of bison butting heads. The women’s event we’ve been working on for the last few months wrapped up Saturday noon and it was an eye-opener, let me tell you. Now that I’ve had awhile to reflect on the morning, I decided to revisit the battle.
Our intention for the morning was to encourage women to embrace and appreciate their uniqueness. Each of us is a one-of-a-kind creation and a beloved child of God. We can only become the best possible version of the person we were made to be when we stop trying to be something or someone we are not. We live in a culture that distorts reality as ridiculously as fun house mirrors. And, it’s become a huge challenge to separate truth from lies and fantasy from reality.
Resistance is universal
The work to become our best self isn’t quick or easy. It’s difficult to develop healthy self-love but it’s an essential step in the process. We all want to be happy and deep down we know the things that make us happier and fulfilled. Ironically, we often find those things the hardest to do. First of all, we have this pesky human condition of imperfection, darn it!
If that isn’t hard enough there’s also a mysterious but very real force constantly working against us, especially when we’re trying to do something worthwhile or have a desire for self-improvement. Humans have always wrestled with this opposition. It’s been called by many names but my favorite “The Resistance.”
Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, it’s a good practice from time to time to get intentional about making changes in your habits and thinking. The current season of Lent derives its name from the old English “lencten” which means spring. The approach of spring lends itself well to such a project. It’s a perfect time to begin.
“Who you become is infinitely more important than what you do, or what you have.”~Matthew Kelly
Beat Resistance with baby steps
I’m using a Matthew Kelly book, Resisting Happiness, as a Lenten study again this year. Kelly calls it like he sees it. In Chapter 1, he writes we just might meet resistance at the very beginning of our day when our alarm clock goes off. If we hit “snooze”, the score is already 1-0. Resistance just “kicked our butt.” (in his words).
In scripture, the apostle Paul, a guy who admittedly had one of the best teachers possible when it came to doing the right things, struggled too. He said it this way, “I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway.” How about you and me? Don’t we experience the same struggle to do the things we know will lead us to a better place?
You’re not alone in battle with self-doubt, laziness, procrastination, distractions, and fear! However, it’s a battle you can win using simple little steps! A nudge, a bit more determination, a push through discomfort, or a smidge more discipline will send resistance running! Prove it to yourself and you’ll savor the joy of accomplishment. Over time, all those small victories will add up to the big win, living your worthy values and knowing you have become the very best possible version of you!
“Inch by inch, life’s a cinch”~John Bytheway